Do you ever find yourself in a ugly pattern of forgiving someone and then become resentful all over again because of the way that person rubs you wrong?
Is there any hope and freedom for the Jesus follower that lives day and day out with a ‘EGR’ (Extra Grace Required) person as described by Rick Warren?
Yesterday, I shared the first step to begin to break free from this ugly cycle. Disciplining yourself to thank the Lord repeatedly for this person in detail can remove you from wrath to mercy.
Lets look at two more:
Pray blessing over this person: A pieces of prayers I have said, “Lord I pray no one finds out, Lord don’t treat them like their sins deserve, Lord don’t hold it against them, Lord bless them with some extra money for ice cream today, give them joy in their marriage, give them satisfaction in their work. Give them a word of encouragement from a friend.”
Romans 12:14-21 tells us to, “bless those who persecute you. Bless and do not curse.”
Jesus says in Luke 6
27 “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.
35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. 36 Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.
Praying good things over the person you are aggrieved by will gravitate you towards a heart lined up with God’s love for them. The more you thoughtfully pray blessing over a person the more freedom you will experience.
Be creative at performing acts of blessing:
- Try giving gifts (you might want to do this anonymously) Amazon served as great conduit of kindness for me . A simple Amazon gift card in their inbox meant God was answering my prayer of blessing through my own act of obedience.
- Cookies at the door
- Anonymous note in the mail that encourages them
- Send a text message, telling them you are praying for them. I can remember struggling with an individual who was going to be helping at a ministry later that afternoon. I dreaded the contact I would have with them just a few hours away. I believe at that time the Lord was leading me to send the person a text message, telling them I am praying for them, which I ended up doing. I felt a significant release of bitter feelings, that was replaced with an attitude of mercy.
- Any more? Send me some of your ideas
Succeeding at forgiveness, means doing the things daily that help my heart break free from the chains of unforgiveness.
More steps to come, stay tuned!